Donor Insensitivity

I read alot in philanthropic fund raising materials about "donor sensitivity". This means that organizations work to make giving opportunities fit the donor's needs and desires. Essentially one tries to make giving very palatable to the giver. This puts giving at the service of the donor. I am sure this approach is popular with donors who then "call the shots "on the giving. However, I cannot see in the gospels that this is Jesus' approach. He is hardly considerate of the rich young ruler's desires. He is not very concerned about James and John's family business. He calls them to leave their Father. It appears that in matters of giving Jesus wants to make the calls and then we can decide whether or not to follow. I think Jesus understands one big thing that we often do not- that the possessions we "donate" actually belong to him anyway. He has been kind enough to let us borrow them. When he asks for a part of them back that's his call not ours!